Tuesday, March 04, 2008

on rude people

You know, the world would be a nicer place if people would just be polite.

I'm not saying we have to be stuffy and proper and get into serious censorship, or anything like that, but whatever happened to just keeping your trap shut if you don't have anything nice to say? I would think that this would go equally as well for strangers as for loved ones.

Yeah, it may be "typical of a first time mom" to go and cut all my hair off, but if you had been reading this for any length of time, or even knew me, you would know that I got really crazy highlights when my stylist went overboard before Christmas, and my hair was fried from the bleaching process. I cut it off because it looked like I had been chewing the ends or something, not because I'm having a baby. Heck, that baby won't be here until October, and I'm sure my hair will be back down below my shoulders by then. Not only does it grow fast on it's own, I'm taking those awesome prenatal vitamins too. October is FAR.

Yeah, my lunch may not appeal to everyone, but why say anything at all? I mean, I look at a LOT of blogs in a day (I love the voyeuristic aspect of it) and I see many things that don't appeal to me - pictures of crockpot meals, scrapbook pages, home decor, bento lunches, samples of writing, etc - but I don't comment on them. Who am I to tell a complete stranger that I think their taste sucks? If I see something I like, or I agree with the poster, that's when I leave a comment.

YES, I know I leave myself open to criticism and negative comments by having a public blog, and in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter that someone else thinks my lunch is unappetizing, or that my hair is typical. I guess what bothers me is that people think it's okay to be rude, under the guise of anonymity especially, and claim that they're being "honest" or "real". No, they're being rude, plain and simple.

The first comment about my lunch bothered me a little, but I figured, hey, maybe she didn't mean for it to come across the way it did. I got over it really quickly. The second one, however, was obviously intended to be rude, as further evidenced by the "anonymous" in the name section. If you want to be a bitch (or asshole, I'm equal opportunity here) have the balls to say who you are and stand by your comments, that's all I'm saying. I've said it before, and it's listed in the sidebar too.

I try to live my life being a good person. I have my own morals and standards that I use to judge my own character. Some of them, it's pretty obvious those are my standards for me and I dont' expect others to live by them. Some of them, I thought were societal norms (be polite, for example) but apparently, others don't live by them the way I thought most people tried to. I have to remember that not everyone is trying to be a good person, or to work on their character the way that I am.

I just happen to think that the world would be a nicer place if people could just be polite, and remember that the concept extends farther than just saying please and thank you.



Blogger Sarah said...

Sara, I'm sorry you had to write this post. I hope the comments aren't getting you down... it's pretty silly that people are making snap judgements about you/yourlife/yourlunch based on a blog entry! I've gotten a fair share on my blog before too, but I just figure why give these people the power to make me feel bad. (Easier said than done, but you know what I mean.)

Anyway since I didn't comment on your last post, I will tell you here, I think your hair turned out super cute! I love it with your glasses too, it's a really sophisticated look. I wish I had dark hair. Mine is dirty blonde and I've yet to find a good pair of chunky frames that work. I'm glow in the dark pale and anything dark makes me look scary. :P

9:36 AM  
Blogger Lida said...

Mean people suck, pay no attention to them, there are many of us who love reading you, watching your yummy bento lunches (yes I think is really yummy!)and can´t wait to hear more about Bubba.
We love you don´t change a thing!

11:16 AM  
Blogger emily said...

I was brought up with the motto "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." I'm reminded daily that not everyone is familiar with this motto. Mean people do suck. Don't let them "rent" too much space in your mind! I enjoyed reading your blog! I too post on TwoPeas and am new to blogging...

5:42 PM  
Blogger Angie said...

Wow, I just popped into your blog for the first time from 2Peas - I randomly click blogs in Pea's signatures when I'm bored and internetting.

I think I love you already! LOL. Your frankness on your blog is refreshing... little of that "I'm so perfect with my perfect family and SOOOO blessed to be chosen for blank DT... blah, blah, blah."

Don't let the complainers and carpers get you down. Rudeness is becoming epidemic and I think people are worse on the internet since it's relatively anonymous.

I'm bookmarking you. I'll be back, girl. Keep on being yourelf.

9:07 AM  
Blogger Zee said...

Ditto what they said! Hahaha. Oh and I'm lovin' the polka dot shirt!

How ys feeling, the tiredness hit yet? Man it kicked my ass big time! LOL.

12:36 AM  

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