Monday, July 04, 2011

Warning: Bullshit Tolerance Level Extremely Low

Um, proceed with caution.

Yes, I know today is the fourth of July. Everyone is out there getting their Independence Day on while I'm sitting in my living room, grumpy, annoyed at the world and blogging. Seriously, EVERYTHING has the potential to annoy me today. In fact, I even got annoyed at an orange for having too much pith as I tried to zest it a little while ago. I'm completely on edge, and I know exactly why.

I have this video of one of my dogs on YouTube. It's a stupid little video, less than a minute long. I made it because we had this one year where it rained almost every day for two weeks. My dog is spoiled and HATES getting her feet wet. I'm talking to the point if you open the door to take her out and she sees it's raining, she has no problem squatting in the doorway to relieve herself. Even now that we have the back yard so they don't go on walks, we have to carry her to the middle of the yard and hold an umbrella over her head so she'll pee. Ridiculous.

Anyway, I came across these dog shoes at Target on clearance for $4 and figured, hey, it was worth a shot. The thinking was that maybe if her feet stayed dry, she wouldn't be as bothered by going out in the rain. I didn't take into account that she might just not like the shoes, which of course is what happened. We put them on her one time, made a video at the resulting hilarity, and then put the shoes away where they were never worn by anyone else again.

For some reason though, people keep finding this thing though. It has over 150,000 hits, which I think is totally insane. Most of the comments that get left are pretty harmless, but I've gotten a few doozies on there. Like the people who like to tell me that I'm cruel, or that "omg this iz torcher" (and yes, the mean comments are mostly misspelled). My favorite one so far was the one that said "How would you like it if someone put boots on you?"

Yeah.

Of course, no one ever reads the note under the video explaining why she was wearing the shoes or that she only wore them that one time.

Well, this morning, when I checked my email (as I do first thing when I wake up) I was greeted with a notification from YouTube that I had received a comment on that video, and this is what it read:

someone can't have children...

No disrespect to those who really can't : (


I was LIVID!!! What the heck does that even mean? There's no way to NOT be disrespectful to someone who really can't have children with that statement. NONE. And then for this to show up in my mailbox today?

This particular anniversary is hard to forget because I remember being at a friend's fourth of July party last year and having everyone congratulating us over the pregnancy when I started spotting. Every time I would go to the bathroom I would pray so hard that it had stopped, and I would implore my baby to just hold on, please, hold on. Every time it would still be the same and I had to go back out to that party and put on my happy face and pretend that everything was okay, when in truth, inside my heart was breaking.

So I get this email today, when I'm dealing with going through the anniversary of actually having had a miscarriage and dealing with the uncertainty that hey, maybe I really can't have anymore children...

This is not the kind of crap I need. Usually I just delete those comments but today, I stooped to that person's level and I replied.

  • Really? No disrespect to those who really can't, but you're directing this comment at me who you don't know but you assume can't have children? I have received some really asinine comments on this videos but yours is truly ignorant and hateful. For your information, I had a miscarriage last year. Thanks for reminding me on this lovely holiday. Also, putting a barrette in a Yorkie's hair (you have to keep it out of their eyes or it gets matted and they can't see) is hardly the equivalent of being a crazy cat lady. If you had taken a minute to actually read what I had posted you would have seen that I did this ONE TIME in a desperate attempt to appease a dog who didn't want to go out after a week of rain because she doesn't like her feet to be wet and would rather pee inside.


Of course, then they replied.

I at least would have owned and admitted that it is cruel and not been completely dismissive of how Gidget ACTUALLY felt because 'I'm a human with superior/complex emotions that animals don't understand'...

here's me also being dismissive; lets see if you get frustrated too. >>>>All I heard in your comments is I'm a middle aged, Desperate, Frustrated, Crazy Cat Lady who had a miscarriage...

You and Millions of others including myself and my wife...


WHAT ON EARTH could possibly be going on in your life that you would want to be that mean to a complete stranger, one who had never done a single thing to hurt you, one who JUST TOLD YOU THAT SHE MAY, IN FACT, NOT BE ABLE TO HAVE CHILDREN??? Why? And what the hell is wrong with me that I would let it get to me to the point where it would not only color everything that I do today, and how I feel about it, but actually to be sitting here crying about it?

I did something that I thought would help my dog, which didn't. I never did it again. It gave us a few laughs, and I put myself up for criticism when I posted it online. True, it was posted a long time ago, before you could put videos straight to Blogger and YouTube was the easiest way to host something if you wanted it on your blog, but still, it's out there. I will not "admit" that it was cruel, because it was not. It was done for her benefit, it didn't work, it never happened again, she wore them for maybe 5 minutes total, and she was not hurt in any way, shape, or form. If I was dismissive over how my dog felt, I wouldn't have given a shit if she didn't like getting her feet wet.

I know I shouldn't let the mean, hateful words of someone who I've never even met from the-freaking-internet-for-pete's-sake get to me. I know it's stupid. Still.

I don't even have a stupid cat.

EDITED TO ADD

He just sent me ANOTHER message. Apparently I'm his pet project today and he's decided to not leave me alone.

shtboxexpose has made a comment on These boots were made for walking:

You've taken a video of yourself being cruel to an animal and I'm an asshole! and apparently you consider animals feelings as an arbitrary - pseudo science. You silly girl there are funny elements to everything as far as I would like to see things anyway! but over-sensitive, delusional 'B's like yourself choose to perpetuate an old - ironic - moronic - irrational reality... get a clue lady! and remove that object from your 'A'
I don't suppose anyone knows how to block him, huh?

5 Comments:

Blogger Beth said...

Sara,
First, big hugs. I'm sorry that today holds such painful memories for you.

Second, people who make comments like those are giant DOUCHEBAGS who have no concept of anything past their keyboard. In my humble opinion, of course. He and his ilk are always right, completely perfect, and above reproach (in their tiny minds). I know it's hard to let go, but he's not worth the angst - logic and reason don't work with people like this. They are RIGHT, dammit, so don't confuse them with the facts! He conveniently ignored the actual reason behind the boots and the one-time-use part, instead focusing on his own whatever. Perhaps he is unkind to his own animals and so he sees that in anyone else's behavior?

I haven't seen you in how many years, and I know that you would NEVER do anything abusive to your dog! Anyone who knows you in the slightest knows that this guy is so far off, he's in another time zone. He's like a politician - he has a similar experience so now he's an expert on EVERYONE's experience.

Douchebag. Totally. Would you like us to all go over to YouTube and comment back at him and rip him a new one? 'Cause I'm sure I'm not the only one who would go and do it.....

It's a cute little video with a perfectly rational explanation right there, and he's just someone who doesn't get it. To use it to cause you pain is just over-the-top f'ed up.

6:24 PM  
Blogger David Andersen said...

People. Are jackasses.

I remember that video. You posted the link on JM, which prompted me to watch it, which prompted me to read your blog... I never once found it offensive. People put shoes on their dogs all the time. We had some for mine (although, like Gidget, they wore them once and that was it). My friend's mother makes her put shoes on the dog whenever she's outside ("If we have to take shoes off when we come in, so should the dog"). Never once did I think it was cruel.

8:44 PM  
Blogger Samara Link said...

What a douche.

I'm sorry to hear this weekend was the anniversary of losing your pregnancy. That's a tough one, and I sure can see why you are feeling sensitive. I hate that that loss is part of your story, and I hope you have all the success in the world next time. :) Hugs.

11:34 AM  
Blogger Beth said...

Sara,
There should be a place on his page that says "block user" - in the same area where you can send messages. You'll have to go to his actual YouTube page - I guess it's really called a channel - to find it. Hope that works.

9:29 PM  
Blogger Katy Cameron said...

Good grief, someone didn't take their meds today! Shame he took it out on you though, you didn't deserve that at all (((((HUGS)))))

3:15 PM  

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